Is it all bad? Rewards and challenges of mothering children with hidden disabilities

Alice Home

doi:10.1921/swssr.v13i3.475

Authors

Alice Home

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.1921/swssr.v13i3.475

Keywords:

children, invisible disability, ADHD, mother, family

Abstract

Little is known about mothering children with hidden disabilities affecting behaviour, so social workers can underestimate their impact. As research emphasizes negative outcomes, this study examined mothering rewards and challenges, along with influence of caregiving, family, work, demographic factors, perceived demands and supports. Survey participants were 197 employed Canadian mothers of children with ADHD and related disabilities. Rewards came from children's special qualities, progress despite disability and mothers’ personal growth. Half the challenges arose from children's behaviour, others from school, organizational and family conflict problems. Higher rewards were predicted by mothers’ education, fewer children, support (overall, school professionals). Nearly half the variance in challenges was explained by 4 predictors: combined ADHD subtype, perceived family demands, overall and health professional support. Social workers can point out rewards, recognize difficulties, reframe perceived demands, advocate for increased formal support and acceptance. Further research is needed on family impact of disability.

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